Midwest Trans Dad
Dad. Queer. Fat. Trans. Disabled. AuDHD. Advocate. Storyteller. Truthseeker.
Hey, I’m Alec.
I was raised in a small coal town in rural Appalachia, but my path has carried me to the Midwest, where I’ve since planted roots. Along the way, I’ve been shaped by every identity I carry: Queer, Fat, Trans, Disabled, AuDHD. My lived experiences don’t just inform my work, they are the foundation of it.
This site is where I tell the truth. Through memoir, analysis, and reflection, I write from the place where vulnerability meets defiance. I believe transformation begins when we speak honestly, especially when systems try to silence us.
Regardless of why you’re here, I hope this space offers you a place to learn, unlearn, grow, and reclaim what’s always been yours.
“Looking back on that day on the bridge, I realize now it was only the beginning of a journey that would eventually lead me here. I didn’t know it then, but there were strengths within me waiting to be uncovered — character, courage, vulnerability, defiance, stubbornness, humor in the face of pain, and even a sense of justice I never lost when the world around me felt unkind. Those qualities carried me, one step at a time, through years of learning not just how to survive, but how to live…”
— Alec Williams, “The Ghost I Became,” 1st Place Winner of the Paul G. Quinnett Lived Experience Writing Competition | Presented by American Association of Suicidology (AAS) & The QPR Institute, April 2024
I don’t remember the last time I rested without guilt. Even when my body aches for stillness, I feel that familiar buzz; the voice saying I’m wasting time, falling behind. But that voice isn’t mine. It’s capitalism, whispering that my worth is measured by output, not by being alive.